Then I went to a retreat in Italy, lay on a floor, fid breathwork for the first time and life came back.

The world looked brighter, more free and I walked out of that room feeling, possibly for the first time, like I was actually in my own life rather than performing one.

The people on that trip saw me without the performance - the real version, the one who was a bit of a dork and didn't have it together - and they liked her.

And something in me thought: oh. So this is what it feels like to actually connect with another person.

I had been relating through the performance for so long, I had forgotten there was another way.

I went back to the UK and trained under Dr Gabor Maté and Layla Martin. I studied IFS, somatic therapy, love, sex and relationship coaching, attachment repair, nervous system regulation, Eastern philosophy, and sacred sexuality. I sat in psychedlic ceremonies.

I went into places that would make some people uncomfortable to hear about and that I now consider the most important education of my life, I went to all of it, because the thing that happened on that floor in Italy was so real, so categorically different from everything I had tried before, that I needed to understand it.

All of it, from the inside.

What came out the other side is something I do not think exists anywhere else: someone who has spent a decade on a trading floor at JPMorgan and also gone to the absolute depths of human experience and come back able to translate all of it - without losing either language.

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I work with high-achieving people who have built the impressive life and lost themselves inside it, not those  in crisis, those who are quietly, persistently aware that something is not quite right.

That there is a hum that has been there a while, that the version of themselves showing up every day - at work, in relationships, in every room they walk into - is a performance.

And underneath it, the real version has been waiting a very long time.

That is where I come in. I use somatic and body-based work, breathwork, parts work, and nervous system regulation to go underneath the insight and into the body where the pattern actually lives.

The work is rigorous and it is real, and it goes further than anything they have tried before - because it goes somewhere nothing they have tried before has gone.

The result is not a fixed version, it is the real one, wild and free and completely, unmistakably theirs.

She has been there the whole time, underneath the proving and the adjusting and the pre-empting, she is not something you have to become, she is something you stop performing over.