I kept finding myself in the same painful cycles - drawn to unavailable men, getting the ick with the ones who treated me well, or overanalyzing every text, every silence.

I could hold it together in a boardroom, but in relationships, I’d spiral. And every time it happened, I’d promise myself I’d do better next time.

So, I did what high achievers do best: I worked on it.

I read the books, I went to therapy, I journaled, I “understood” my patterns logically - and yet, nothing felt different.

Because insight alone couldn’t reach what was driving the behaviour: my body’s memory of what love had meant and cost.

Then I found somatic work - and everything changed.
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I went on to retrain in trauma-informed, body-based coaching, studying under teachers such as Dr. Gabor Maté and Layla Martin, with continued study in somatic psychology, female sexuality, attachment repair, and nervous system regulation.
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This work brought everything I’d been searching for together - science, soul, and the lived experience of what it means to feel safe in your own skin.

For the first time, I stopped talking about my pain and started feeling it. I began to understand that the patterns playing out in my relationships weren’t about brokenness or bad choices - they were my body’s way of protecting me from what once felt unsafe.

The more I learned to listen to my body, the more I saw how deeply relational patterns shape everything.
Not just who we date - but how we work, how we speak, how we rest, how we lead, how we let people close.

Because the thing is, the way we relate in love is the way we relate to life. When you’ve had to earn safety, you overperform for it.

When connection has felt unpredictable, you control what you can, your calendar, your inbox, your emotions. And when being loved once meant being small, you keep shrinking even as you rise.

My work now is about interrupting that.
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Helping women who have mastered achievement but struggle with intimacy to repattern their nervous systems - so they can feel safe in closeness, steady in their bodies, and free to be all of who they are.

This isn’t about fixing yourself or finding the “right” partner. It’s about remembering what your body already knows: that love, ease, and joy were never things to earn -  they were always your birthright.

Because when you heal at the level of relationship, everything changes.

Your work, your friendships, your sense of home within yourself.
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It all becomes bigger, softer, and more alive.