There was a time my life looked flawless from the outside.
I had the career, the flat, the stamps in my passport - everything I was supposed to want.
But underneath the polished surface was a quiet ache I couldn’t shake. A small, persistent whisper: “Is this really it?”
I had all the markers of success, but none of the sense of belonging.
On paper, I was thriving. In private, lonely, confused, and tired of performing a version of myself I didn't recognise.
I kept finding myself in the same cycles: At work, saying yes when I meant no, in relationships, spiralling or shutting down. In my own life, going through the motions of something that looked right and felt hollow. I could hold it together in a boardroom but I couldn't feel my own life.
So I did what high achievers do best, I worked on it, I read the books, went to therapy, journalled, understood my patterns logically. And yet nothing felt different. Because insight alone couldn't reach what was driving the behaviour: my body's memory of what safety had meant and cost.
Then I found somatic work. And everything changed.
I retrained in trauma-informed body-based coaching, studying under teachers including Dr Gabor Maté and Layla Martin, with continued study in somatic psychology, sexuality, attachment repair, and nervous system regulation.
For the first time I stopped talking about my pain and started feeling it. I began to understand that the patterns playing out everywhere in my life weren't about brokenness or bad choices. They were my body's way of protecting me from what once felt unsafe.
The more I learned to listen to my body, the more I saw how deeply these patterns shape everything - not just who we love, but how we work, how we speak, how we rest, how we lead, how we let people close.
Because the way we relate to others is the way we relate to ourselves. When you have had to earn safety, you overperform for it. When connection has felt unpredictable, you control what you can. When being loved once meant being small, you keep shrinking even as you rise. Because the thing is, the way we relate in love is the way we relate to life, when you’ve had to earn safety, you overperform for it.
My work is about interrupting that.
Helping people who have mastered achievement but lost themselves inside it to come back to their bodies, their desires, and their actual lives. Not to fix themselves (absolutely not), but to remember what they already are. Because the world is magic, and so are you.
And when you finally stop performing long enough to feel that, everything becomes bigger, brighter, and more alive.
“INsight without embodiment is just another cage...”
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We don’t do “perfect.” We do real. This work is not about curating who you think you should be - it’s about meeting the truth of who you are, with compassion and courage. Because truth is where healing begins, and pretending is what keeps you stuck.
You can’t think your way out of a body that doesn’t feel safe.Before we aim for goals, we build ground - a felt sense of safety in your body, so change doesn’t just make sense in your mind, it lands in your nervous system.
Your patterns in love are not separate from how you live - they are how you live. We heal in relationship, not in isolation. Whether it’s with a partner, a friend, or yourself, the way you relate determines the quality of your life.
No spiritual bypassing, no quick fixes, no “high vibe only” nonsense.
This work honours science, somatics, and soul. Trauma-informed, attachment-rooted, and grounded in the real world.
You don’t have to shrink, fix, or perfect yourself to be free. Freedom isn’t about becoming more; it’s about remembering all the parts of you that were never broken. When you stop abandoning yourself, everything expands -love, joy, possibility, life.
Somatic and body-based work. Breathwork. Parts work and compassionate inquiry. Narrative and existential coaching. Creative and expressive practices. Pleasure and somatic sexuality work. Nervous system regulation and psycho-education.
All of it in service of one thing.
Land + Depth + Delight = Liberated Life.
"You skilfully adapted the sessions to what I needed, shared relevant follow-up materials/sources, and strategically incorporated breathwork to generate the highest impact. During the 3 months, the work felt smooth and effortless; in hindsight, relevant shifts happened that would have required much more work and taken much longer (if at all) if it hadn't been for your guidance."
⎯ Elena, Financial Services
"Lucy changed the trajectory of my life. Sounds dramatic, but she really did! I've gone from feeling burnt out, stuck and emotionally drained to confident, energetic and excited about the future again. Dive in, open your heart, let Lucy guide you, I'm so glad I did!"
⎯ Caroline, Project Manager in Financial Services
"Thanks to the continued work I have done with Lucy I found the confidence to ask for a 12 month sabbatical from my current job and during that time have pursued those things that I love and which spark joy and interest within me. This has taken me down a path of self improvement and learning that I did not think I would be on, but one which I am wholeheartedly loving being immersed in. I would never have had the courage to do this without Lucy's help."
⎯ Helen, Financial Services
"Three sessions with Lucy have brought me a sense of calm I haven't had in a very long time. I'm still trying to wrap my head around the magic that is breathwork, but the few sessions that I have done with Lucy have gone beyond anything I have ever imagined possible."
⎯ Will, Lawyer